No One Noticed My Boots–A Lesson in Self-Regard
Have you ever been so in your head about something that you convinced yourself everyone else was noticing it too? That was me—until I got a reality check from my own two feet.
One day, I was trying to decide which pair of black boots to wear. You know that thing where you stand on one foot, lift the other to see how it looks, then switch? I was deep in the decision-making process when I got distracted, never actually making a final choice. Fast forward to me walking into the event—completely unaware that I had on two different boots.
The moment I looked down and realized it, I felt a wave of embarrassment. Shit! How did I not notice?! What will people think? But there was no time to change, so I had two choices: let it ruin my confidence or just roll with it.
I decided to just roll with it.
And guess what? Not a single person noticed. Or if they did, they didn’t say a word.
Then there was the time I wore two completely different statement earrings to a gala. Like really big rhinestone statement earrings. I was trying them on when I got distracted with the babysitter arriving. And....I totally forgot and left for the Gala rocking two different and very statementy earrings. I didn’t notice I had on two different earrings until the end of the night. When I asked a few people why they didn’t say anything, they just shrugged and said they assumed I was making a bold fashion choice—as if it was a new trend!
How often do we do this to ourselves?
How often do we do this to ourselves? We assume all eyes are on us, judging, critiquing, waiting to call out our mistakes. But the truth? People are usually too focused on themselves to notice or care about the things we obsess over.
This is where self-regard—a key pillar of emotional intelligence—comes in. Self-regard is about having confidence in yourself, knowing your worth isn’t tied to perfection, and showing up as you are. It’s about quieting that inner critic that makes a big deal out of things no one else even notices.
So here’s your challenge this week:
Catch yourself in those moments when you’re overanalyzing, second-guessing, or assuming the worst. Ask yourself—is this really a big deal, or am I making it one? Then take a deep breath, own the moment, and walk in like you meant to wear two different boots.
Because chances are, no one else is even looking.
