Other People’s Opinions of You Are None of Your Business
When I was in 8th grade, my world flipped upside down. My parents were getting divorced, we moved to a new town, and for the first time, I realized that… not everyone liked me.
In fact, some really didn’t.
One day, someone spray-painted “Bitch, get out of town” on our driveway.
Here’s the thing: I never saw it.
A kind, compassionate neighbor saw it first. He came over and washed it off before I could. But word traveled fast—it became the talk of the school. Everyone knew. And even though I didn’t see it with my eyes, I felt it in my heart. I felt the fear. The rejection. The deep ache of not being liked. Not being wanted.
And at a time in my life when I was already feeling vulnerable, it made me question my worth.
Fast forward 30 years—people aren’t spray-painting my driveway anymore, but their opinions still show up.
A rude comment on social media.
A one-star review on my book.
A judgmental remark from someone who doesn’t really know me.
But here’s what I’ve learned: someone else’s opinion of you is not your truth.
Just because they don’t like you doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means… they’re not your people.
You didn’t come to be for everyone. You came to Be Who You Came To Be.
We live in a world where everyone loves to share their opinions—especially the harsh ones. But just because someone shares it doesn’t mean you have to receive it.
Emotional Intelligence Tips to Remember This Week:
1. Self-Regard Is Your Superpower: Your value isn’t up for debate. You are enough—period.
2. Manage Emotional Triggers: Pause. Ask yourself: Is this helpful feedback or just noise?
3. Focus on Your Raving Fans: Give your energy to those who cheer you on, not those who tear you down.
4. Let Them. (More on this below).
This week’s Be Who You Came To Be podcast episode goes deeper into all of this—from the spray-painted driveway and my incredible neighbor, to the online trolls and the one-star review. It’s all about remembering who you are—even when the world tries to tell you otherwise.
xoxo, Tara
P.S. I’m obsessed with Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory.
Let them have their opinions.
Let them not like you.
Let them misjudge you.
Let them be them.
It’s not just a theory—it’s a catalyst for authenticity and freedom. Because when we stop trying to change, fix, or please everyone, we finally get to be who we came to be. You can grab this book HERE
If anyone reading this knows Mel… pass this along. I’d love to connect and talk more about how Let Them is a game-changer for emotional intelligence and authenticity.
